FitGems Nation/Promoting Real Women Fit Mom Roundtable

As part of FitGems FitMom Week, FitGems Nation partnered up with Promoting Real Women to do a interpromotional roundtable. Jason and C-Ray asked several moms questions and got some interesting, unique, yet great responses from those who received replies from. The women involved in this special roundtable are Debbie Fowler, Tarna Alderman, Ila Reed, Melaine Redington, Sandy Wiedmeyer, Mandy Henderson, Kristy Tyndall, Danae Zaitz, and Jennifer Worth. We thank all of them for taking the time to be part of this special roundtable. Hope you all enjoy it!

A. Word Association

What is the first thing you think of when you hear…

IFBB?
Debbie Fowler: The best in the world!
Tarna Alderman: Body building
Ila Reed: Professional league
Melaine Redington: Competing
Sandy Wiedmeyer: great bodies
Mandy Henderson: Accomplishment
Kristy Tyndall: Inspiration and success
Danae Zaitz: PRO’s
Jennifer Worth: Competition

judging?
DF: Confusing
TA: Livestock…lol
IR: competition
MR: Subjective
SW: Subjective
MH: Symmetry
KT: Subjective
DZ: SUBJECTIVE
JW: not consistant

motherhood?
DF: Awesome
TA: Roller coasters of emotions
IR: children
MR: Challenging
SW: Joy
MH: Best job in the world
KT: Joyous
DZ: WONDERFUL
JW: The best feeling in the world but the hardest job ever. 24hrs a day 7days a week

early days of figure?
DF: Pioneering
TA: Were better, More inspiring
IR: Gina Aliotti
MR: no knowledge
SW: Little
MH: Jenny Lynn
KT: Tough
DZ: UNKNOWN
JW: pretty bodies

women's physique?
DF: can’t wait
TA: Excited to see it , be a Part maybe =D
IR: classic bodybuilding
MR: excited about the division
SW: Bright idea!
MH: muscles
KT: No heels?
DZ: IT’S ABOUT TIME
JW: should still look feminine

Olympia?
DF: Maybe some day
TA: Pro’s
IR: Bodybuilding, Vegas
MR: No knowledge
SW: Want to go!
MH: Next goal
KT: awe
DZ: MEGA WEEKEND
JW: I should have won

Dedication?
DF: Absolutely necessary
TA: Obsession, “Success without obsession, is just luck” ~Mountain Man
IR: Motivation, Inspiration
MR: intragral
SW: Discipline
MH: Discipline
KT: Challenging
DZ: ME
JW: Something a lot of people DON'T have and what it takes day in and day out to become a champ

Peak Week (hitting your peak before a contest)?
DF: Trial and error
TA: I’m too new to know this one!
IR: Anticipation
MR: Newbie - just learning
SW: exciting
MH: Timing
KT: hungry
DZ: HORRIBLE
JW: I always hit the day of the show, learn your body

Inspiration?
DF: Comes from within
TA: Comes in all shapes and sizes
IR: Erin Stern
MR: Find it in your daily life, dream, dare
SW: Fellow competitors
MH: Mother-in-law overcoming brain cancer
KT: Kelly and Jessica
DZ: FAMILY
JW: My son and strong fit women!

Fellow competitors?
DF: I adore them all
TA: Motivators
IR: Friends, Siouxcountry.com
MR: Treat others as you want to be treated
SW: Inspiration…hehe
MH: Mostly nice 
KT: fun
DZ: SUPPORTIVE
JW: Some great friends and great people others are the devil and deserve to be in jail as they are.( no names)

B. Past and Present Competitors

Give us a one-word (or more) description of the following people:

Jamie Eason
DF: Perky
TA: Beauty
IR: sweet-hearted
MR: inspirational
SW: gorgeous
MH: Idol
KT: cute
DZ: BEAUTIFUL
JW: sexy body

Ava Cowan
DF: Determines
TA: Consistency
IR: gorgeous
MR: Raw
SW: amazing
MH: Gaspari
KT: rising
DZ: ABS
JW: Great symmetry and very beautiful face!!

Tanji Johnson
DF: Inspirational
TA: Promotion
IR: Inspirational
MR: Dedicated
SW: powerful
MH: Fitness
KT: athletic
DZ: CUTE
JW: hard worker with a great routine, and very sweet girl

Cory Everson
DF: #1
TA: Well-balanced physique
IR: amazing
SW: legendary
MH: Icon
KT: iconic
DZ: PIONEER
JW: legend

Rachel McLish
DF: Pioneer
IR: classic
SW: another legendary
MH: Muscles
KT: unbelievable
DZ: TRENDSETTER
JW: 1st female bodybuilder sooo pretty

Erin Stern
DF: Olympia
IR: motivation
SW: graceful
MH: Track
KT: rockstar
DZ: PHYSIQUE
JW: pretty, great body

Nicole Wilkins
DF: Stunning
IR: beautiful
SW: beautiful
MH: Blond
KT: golden
DZ: CHAMP
JW: new school, young, very pretty and as the total package

Iris Kyle
DF: Undeniable
TA: Size
IR: extraordinary
SW: ripped
MH: Buff
KT: ripped
DZ: MUSCLES!
JW: bodybuilder

Adela Garcia
DF: Champ
TA: Grace
IR: athletic
SW: talented
MH: Olympia
KT: Accomplished
DZ: WINNER
JW: a great person, very hard worker, and as keep her body feminine though out all these long hard yrs. A true warrior

Monica Brant
DF: Legendary
TA: What figure should be!
IR: iconic
SW: icon
MH: Successful
KT: comeback
DZ: SUPERBEAST
JW: role model, a beautiful person inside and out, always got robbed in the IFBB and still going strong at almost 40! Amazing



C. Roundtable Questions

1. What does being a fit mother mean to you?
DF: So many moms let themselves go after having children. I like showing them that you can be fit after kids. It just takes a little work.
TA: Ultimate Dedication, Bordering insanity!
IR: It means being something which most strive for, being an inspiration to others. Showing others you can be fit and hot, and be mom.
MR: What I know from 14 years of parenting and 10 years in the classroom is - It is not what you say it is what you do. Children watch our habits closer than we give them credit. I did not realize how fascinating my competing was to young kids so that is a great benefit.
SW: Finding balance in my life. Taking time for myself while still being a good mother and wife.
MH: Practice what you preach to your children
KT: I want to lead by example. I want my child to see the normalcy in clean eating and exercise. Recently he witnessed me doing hill sprints up our very steep driveway and he joined in the fun then asked to do it again the next day!
DZ: FINDING TIME TO KEEP UP WITH MYSELF IN ORDER TO BE THE BEST MOM I CAN BE
JW: Teaching my son the fit way of life!
2. Does having a child who probably prefers sweets make it harder for you to stay on your diet?
DF: I’m not going to lie, I love cookies, ANY kind. But I can control myself.
TA: No. Not really, I like to feed her sweets actually. It’s sick… I know.
IR: No. Most of my family lives off of things I like: Pizza, cookies, snacks. When I have a goal, those things are a treat, and are not part of MY diet. I have enough self-control to avoid it.
MR: I make it a point to have a junk cupboard. It is my choice to eat the way I do and as a family we eat very clean, but if my son wants chips he can grab a serving of that too.
SW: It can be tough to feed them cookies and yummy snacks, but I remind myself that I can eat whatever I want…this is my choice!
MH: A little
KT: The only junk food in my house are the pop-tarts he eats. He gets fruit or marshmallows for treats. Unless I am completely hormonal then I do not have a difficult time abstaining from sweet stuff.
DZ: NO. I AM DEDICATED TO MY GOALS AND MYSELF. OF COUSE IT LOOKS GOOD BUT IT DOESN’T TEMPT ME. PLUS I HAVE MY KIDS ON A PRETTY CLEAN DIET. MY SON WOULD EAT BROCOLLI FOR BREAKFAST IF I WOULD LET HIM.
JW: No, why should they eat something I don't eat, but allow treats... It doesn't phase me
3. What's the hardest part about being a mother in this industry?
DF: This is an expensive sport. I really struggle with the cost. I feel that the money I spend may be better spent on my kids.
TA: Time, temperaments… I’m single, so it’s hard to stay devoted to the house, bills, animals pets, diet, training, and reading book, helping with homework and the elusive snuggling!
IR: I don’t in and of itself feel being a mother creates any more difficulty in being in the industry. However, some may see it as a negative, if you are looking to get into modeling part of the industry. I don’t think there are enough people who appreciate those that are older in this industry.
MR: For me it has not done anything but make me a better mother. I have more energy and an avenue to release stress. My son is very proud of me.
SW: Definitely the balance. You can’t do everything that you would like. There just isn’t time with having a family!
MH: Time management
KT: The hardest thing is finding the time to be a good mother and wife while working full time and making room for vigorous training.
DZ: FINDING TIME TO GO TO THE GYM. IT’S ABOUT A 3 HR ORDEAL FOR ME AND ALTHOUGH THEY LOVE THE GYM, IT’S A LOT TO PUT THEM THROUGH DAY IN AND DAY OUT.
JW: Having loose skin I didn't have b4 baby, so if I wanted to compete again I would have a disadvantage.
4. Is this an industry you would advise your child to be a part of when old enough?
DF: It will be totally up to them and I will support them 100%. I would love for my daughter to try fitness.
TA: Yes, She loves to pose with me. She hates she can’t workout with me, and is always curious about nutrition and how to get bigger muscles and have a body that is sound. My parents have a lot of life style related health issues, Stress, diet, etc. If I can keep her mind focused on health, life will always be easier for her. She gets into push up contests at school with her teachers and peers.. I’m probably more proud of that, than her amazing grades!
IR: Sure, if they wanted to.
MR: I would not discourage. I have grown tremendously as an athlete
SW: Only if they were interested. This takes a ton of dedication and I would never force it on them. However, if they showed interest, I would back them 100%!!
MH: Definitely
KT: Sure. Why not. As long as he focuses on the healthy nutrition and training.
DZ: YES FOR SURE! ALL THE WONDERFUL SUPPORTIVE PEOPLE MAKE IT A GREAT SPORT/INDUSTRY TO BE IN.
JW: The IFBB, no way, but being an athlete, yes
5. After having your child, what it harder or easier to train?
DF: I found it easier. I really wanted to get my body back after 6 babies. I was determined.
TA: I was never interested before. I gained 80 lbs with her, and kept gaining after she was born. She was about two when I realized I needed to make changes to be a better/ happier mom, and I was the only one who could change that in me.
IR: For me, nothing. It never affected my training. Training is part of my life and something I just do.
MR: I have always been very, very active.
SW: I didn’t start training until after I was already a mom. I am a bit of a late-bloomer in the industry!
MH: My baby is my step-son…he works out with me.
KT: I really did not train hard until after the birth of my child. I can confidently say that having a c-section does not mean you can’t have a 6 pack!
DZ: I HAVE 4 KIDS AND I LOVE TO TRAIN. HARDER BECAUSE I HAVE TO BRING 2 OF THEM, EASIER BECAUSE I HAVE MOTIVATION TO BE THE BEST ME I CAN BE FOR THEM.
JW: It is actually easier for me, I think b/c when I was pregnant I gave my body a break for the 1st time sense I was 7yrs old so it responded so much better.
6. How big a role does being a positive role model for your child play into your dedication to being fit?
DF: It’s what being a mom is all about, being a positive role model for our children. They see my hard work and dedication and it inspires them to work harder.
TA: Standing for something, Dedicating yourself to something, Pursuing dreams…Making changes!! And doing all of those as a Woman, a mom.
IR: I want to be a positive role model, I do that by trying to improve their nutrition and promoting staying active.
MR: Huge - I want him to see that women are tough, that overall health correllates directly to the fuel you feed it. He also understands the importance of exercise and loves to ski, bike, swim and stay active too
SW: HUGE. I want my children to value making healthy choices.
MH: It was one of the biggest motivations to working 7 years at getting my Pro-Card…he knows how I fell about giving up (NEVER)!
KT: It is not my driving factor but it is something I take in to consideration. Like I stated earlier, I want to be a positive role model, and that also pertains to fitness and nutrition.
DZ: A VERY BIG ROLE. WE EAT CLEAN, WE EXERCISE AND WE LIVE A FIT LIFESTYLE. THEY LOVE PRETENDING TO LIFT. MY SON PUTS ON A HEADBAND AND SAYS 1,2,1,2,1,2 LIKE HE’S IN A CLASS! IT’S VERY CUTE
JW: A lot
7. How has your training differed after having a child, if any at all?
DF: Can’t really say, I didn’t train like this before I had kids.
TA: It started! Lol It’s definitely hard fitting all the puzzle pieces together to make the day work right with training, nutrition, being home when she gets home, and finding time to spend together.
IR: No
MR: I never really trained until about 2 years ago and my son is 14 - for me it is a way to occupy myself in part so my son can develop his independence without me hovering too close. It's hard for mothers to have three kids grow up so having a personal focus helps.
SW: Again, I am a late bloomer so I have nothing to compare it to!
KT: I didn’t train prior to having my child. The next time I will have about 150 extra calories a day and workout through my entire pregnancy (I hope!!)
DZ: IT HASN’T CHANGED, ALTHOUGH I NEED TO DO MORE ABS NOW THAN BEFORE BECAUSE OF MY C-SECTION.
JW: Yes totally different style training, no more heavy weights, a lot of exercise with my son always keeping it fun.
8. What is your biggest suggestion for a mother who may be trying to get a handle on their child's diet?
DF: My philosophy is to always make healthy options available. When they are little it is easier to make them eat healthy foods. The challenge comes when they are teenagers. You can’t make them eat healthy. You have to be an example and have healthy foods available.
TA: I think explaining why we eat certain things is a good thing. She likes to know why fiber is important, and what foods build muscle. So when she doesn’t want to eat cottage cheese I tell her what the protein in it does, and why that’s important! Kids want to be healthy.
IR: Be a role model in what you eat. Try to prepare foods that are appealing yet healthy for your child.
MR: Your child will develop the eating habits you model - if you eat healthy your child will too.
SW: Don’t be overly strict. Let kids be kids and simply try to help them make healthier choices. Let them be a part of the decision making process or let the help prepare the meal.
MH: Teach them about carbs, protein, fat, fiber, grains and moderation. You would be surprised at how much kids like to learn when it comes to diet and exercise.
KT: As a Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist, I see first hand every day what obesity is doing to our entire population, particularly our children. I have taken care of 3 year olds who weigh more than 80lbs and 8 year olds that weigh 160lbs. It is grotesque and deadly. They have hypertension, diabetes, asthma, and acid reflux disease and they are dying….slowly. As a general rule, it is not the fault of the child. Children do not understand proper nutrition and it is obvious that many parents do not either.
I don’t buy juice. My child gets water or milk and an occasional Sprite when we are out to eat. Guess what! He does not know he is missing it. I serve whole wheat Eggos, and he does not realize that other people eat them with butter and syrup. He is content to have it plain. Recently my family served strawberries coated with sugar with dinner. When I politely explained that my child loved strawberries and did not need to eat them covered with empty calories, I was met with resistance. The typical response it, “He’s a kid. Kids need sweets.” Well, I obviously totally disagree. Don’t get me wrong, I do not deprive him. He gets the occasional ice cream or piece of chocolate. We serve cake at birthdays, but we do not typically provide this junk in our house. Can you tell you struck a chord with this question?!!
DZ: DON’T BUY IT!!! IF IT’S NOT IN THE HOUSE, THEY CAN’T HAVE IT. IF YOU GIVE THEM HEALTHY FOOD, THEY’LL GET USED TO THAT AND CRAVE IT. START YOUNG!!
JW: Why feed them stuff u wouldn't eat! Out of site out of mind. Monkey see monkey do, so get a grip on what you eat and watch your kid follow
9. What's the general perceptive of people after you tell them that you're a mother?
DF: I always get “There is no way you’ve had 6 babies.” People are amazed.
TA: I think people always know I’m a mother first! I don’t notice a shock value or anything!
IR: Usually surprised, especially when they know how old they are. I truly feel that weightlifting, and being fit is the fountain of youth.
MR: I am always with my family so not surprised.
SW: I seems to give other moms hope that they can get back in shape after having children. All I takes is discipline, dedication, and hard work. You gotta want it!!!
MH: I think it motivates people to see a competitor who is a mother because they realize if we can do it, they can too.
KT: They can’t believe I have a child. One of my newest role models in a 49 year old fellow figure competitor with 5 kids. Her body is so tight and amazing!
DZ: THEY CAN’T BELIEVE I HAVE 4 KIDS. 18, 14 AND 5 YR OLD TWINS. THEY THINK I’M IN MY LATE 20’S AND I’M REALLY FIT SO THEY CAN’T BELIEVE I’VE HAD 4.
JW: “Wow, I would have never guessed”
10. Has your child seen you compete? If so, did they enjoy it?
DF: They all went to my first show. They were very proud of their mom. But it’s not there thing so I won’t subject them to a 5 hour show. However, if I asked them to be there I know they would go.
TA: Yes- she was pretty excited, but it was a long day for her. She likes seeing me on stage, but what she really gets excited about is the fitness routines! As a bodybuilder we don’t get princess crowns… haha. She was disappointed for that.
IR: Both of my children have been to competitions. While they don’t like the long shows, they have both always been extremely supportive and I feel are truly proud of what I have done.
MR: Yes, at first he thought the whole idea was skeptical - but now he's one of my best supporters.
SW: My kids have been to all but one of my competitions. They love it and I love hearing them yell for me in the audience. It makes me smile brighter and puts me at ease!
MH: Jeffrey went to all of my shows in the beginning and was very proud of me…but after watching too many shows, he got bored (he was only 6 years old). Now he cheers me on from home.
KT: No. So far he has been too young. It is a long day. He is going to my next competition in June. He is excited….mostly because I told him he could get on the stage after pre-judging!
DZ: YES THEY HAVE. THEY DON’T LIKE WHEN I PREP, THEY DON’T LIKE THAT MY CALORIE INTAKE IS SO LOW BUT THEY LIKE SEEING ME UP ON STAGE. THEY YELL LOUDER THAN ANYONE IN THERE.
JW: No

D. Closing

What would you tell a mother who wants to get back into shape after having a child or children? Also any final words you have for your fans. If you have any shows coming up, you can plug them here.

Debbie Fowler
The best advice I could give is set a big goal, then set smaller ones to mark your progress. Nothing happens over night, it took you a long time to have all your babies so it’s going to take a while to get your body back. It will happen. I’m prepping for the Toronto Super Show in June. It’s going to be a great show. I’d also like to thank all the fans, husbands, wives, and kids who support us and put up with our contest prep. You guys are the best. I love you Todd, Nick, Gabby and Ben!

Tarna Alderman
I think fitness means different things for different people. I think your children, will have a sense of pride in who you are, and what you do if its the decision you make. I think as women and as parents we always feel guilty taking time for our selves. What it teaches my daughter is that I’m not just her mom. She gets to look at me as a dedicated bodybuilder, and be proud that I’m her mom too!

Ila Reed
Make a plan, and stick to it. Research nutrition and training. And don’t be afraid of weight training and lifting heavy. That is usually my biggest advice. Be consistent and you can achieve what you want.
In the end, if you want something, go after it. Pursue your dreams.
My first show this year will be Team Universe, where I will be making my National Debut. It will be exciting. I’m hoping to bring a much improved and competitive physique to the stage.

Melanie Ridington
I would say - make yourself a priority. Live each day as a role model. Show respect to your body by feeding it nourishing food and make healthy eating a cornerstone of family. You will be giving your child skills for a healthy life.
Competed Saturday May 14 - Kenai Alaska

Sandy Wiedmeyer
Seriously, if I can do it, anyone can. As I said you have to want it! You have to put in the time and be willing to make a few sacrifices. The end product it so worth it!
Thank you to everyone who has been and continues to be so supportive. It is so refreshing that I am constantly meeting new friends in the industry! You can follow me at: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Sandy-Wiedmeyer-NGA-and-IFPA-Figure-PRO/107796602629018

Mandy Henderson
Always make time for yourself. Your kids will learn how important it is to stay in shape and it will teach them about discipline. If you lead a healthy lifestyle, your kids will follow. It’s so cool when your 13 year old is spotting you on the chest press. It makes you realize you have taught him well.
Being a mom is the greatest accomplishment you can achieve and being a FIT mom is something to be proud of!
Thanks for reading and give your mom a hug next time you see her!

Kristy Tyndall
You have to be ready. You have to have your mind set to make a change. I think the nutritional component plays that largest roll. It determines how you feel which determines how hard you train. I like to say, you can’t out-train a bad diet.

Danae Zaitz
JUST GO! GET TO THE GYM, GET MOVING AND IT’LL START TO FALL BACK INTO PLACE. IT’S HARD TO GET STARTED BUT ONCE YOU DO, YOU’LL WANT TO GO MORE AND MORE.
THANK YOU TO MY HUSBAND, FAMILY AND FRIENDS. I LOVE YOU ALL!
I WILL BE COMPETING AT:
ABA NATURAL NORTH AMERICAN (WWW.NATURLAOLYMPIA.COM ) AUG 13, 2011.
NGA CHICAGO WINDY CITY CLASSIC (WWW.NATIONALGYM.COM ) SEPT. 2011 DATE TBD
MUSCLEMANIA MIDWEST (WWW.MUSCLEMANIA.COM ) OCT 8TH, 2011.
PLEASE SHOW YOUR SUPPORT BY COMING TO THESE SHOWS. WE ALL WORK REALLY HARD AND WOULD LOVE TO SEE YOU OUT THERE!
DANAE ZAITZ, 38 YR OLD MOTHER OF 4!

Jennifer Worth
I would tell them do it now and do it for you and them, cause you will set an example for them! You can't turn back what you teach them at a young age so set the bar high.
I don't have any shows but I do have a guest performance coming up at the Southern States in July, it will be my 1st performance sense 2006 and since baby! :) if you’re in Florida and you’re a fan please come out and watch... I can't wait for my son to watch me!!!!

Once again, thank you to all the mothers that were involved in this special roundtable! For more on Promoting Real Woman, go to http://promotingwomen.blogspot.com. For more on FitGems Nation, go to http://www.fitgemsnation.net and http://fitgems.blogspot.com. 

My Tribute to Jason Adams

I know I have quite a bit to write about, but I wanted to take this time to write about someone who has said to me over and over that I'm an inspiration to HIM. The man I'm talking about it Jason Adams.

The first time I heard of him is when I saw his post on Siouxcountry about his blog called Promoting Real Women (http://promotingwomen.blogspot.com), his blog dedicated to MMA and the fitness industry. I highlighted his blog on FitGems (http://fitgems.blogspot.com/2010/01/fitting-review-promoting-women.html) as it was starting to take off. I check out the blog every day, as it's one of the coolest and most unique blogs in the world right now, not just for the fitness and women's MMA (which I have a newfound respect for, thanks to Jason), but in ALL of sports. I follow a lot of sports and sport blogs, and I can't think of one blog that gives people a chance to shine like his. An interview blog?! That's beyond innovation, in my honest opinion.

Over 2010, his star began to rise and rise to unbelievable heights. He opened a fan page for his blog, which is now approaching 7,000 members (I see it reaching 10,000 by summertime). He decided to make me an administrator to the fan page, as well as a writer for the blog. For him to ask me to be an admin and guest writer meant a lot to me, as this is reserved for the females that have made the biggest impact of his life. I returned the favor by making him an admin to the FitGems fan page, a guest blogger, and also gave him his own special section on the main FitGems website as well as making him a top moderator for the site. I never looked back, as making him a part of FitGems was one of the best decisions I ever made in my life.

I've said this to him, and I'm going to say it here: I see Jason as an older brother of some sorts. That's how much respect I have for him. When you diss him, you diss me. I don't give a damn if you call me a jerk or a creep or perv(I'm used to it now, even know I know it's not true), but please don't stoop so low as to call Jason out of his name. He doesn't deserve the crap he's getting from certain people, who won't be mentioned here on this blog post.

So when you get the chance, let Jason know how much you care for what he's doing for this sport. Let him know that you appreciate what he's doing. I sure as hell do. From the bottom of my heart, I know I can speak for the many female muscle athletes and female MMA fighters when I say...Thank You. :)

Fight for Leslie

For those that don't know, IFBB Pro Zoa Linsey's sister, Leslie, has recently been diagnosed with Stage 2 breast cancer. She's a mother of 10 who also just recently got out of an abusive marriage. Tomorrow, she will be going though surgery to help eradicate this cancer.

A website and Facebook fan page has been created in her honor and to help Leslie fight arguably the biggest fight of her life. We at FitGems Nation are encouraging you to help out the family of Leslie and donate to help cover cost of surgery, and to make sure her family is taken care of. I personally will be donating my own money in the coming weeks ahead, and to show our support, for every sale that is made on the FitGems Online Store (http://www.cafepress.com/FitGemsNation) from now until the end of February, proceeds will go toward Fight for Leslie. It's our way of giving back to a family that needs all the help they can get right now.

For more information on Fight for Leslie, visit their website at http://www.fightforleslie.com and "like" their Facebook fan page at http://www.facebook.com/pages/Fight-for-Leslie/193032177380328.

Guess Who's Joining the "Promoting Real Women" Team?

Yep, yours truly has been asked and invited to write for the popular Promoting Real Women. I want to give a heartfelt thank-you to Jason Adams for giving me this opportunity to write for his blog. I’m very thankful to God that I can call Jason a great friend of mine and an inspiration to me. Talking with him via phone and Facebook has made me realize how much alike we really are, and how much the both of us care about the athletes of the female muscle world.

So over time, I'll be posting on topics that I will post exclusively for Promoting Real Women, including old topics from the FitGems blog that will be updated. As a matter of fact, my first topic on Promoting Real Women will be about the state of female bodybuilding in the NPC/IFBB. Here's my original topic from it, when I did this in 2008:http://fitgems.blogspot.com/2008/07/my-thoughts-on-state-of-womens.html
How much has it changed? You'll find out soon enough.

Please join me on Promoting Real Women at http://promotingwomen.blogspot.com/, as I've already done an introductory post there, just basically saying who I am and such. If you haven't done it yet, PLEASE go out there and support Jason Adams and Promoting Real Women!! :)

Jason Adams Joins FitGems Nation

Over the weekend, a new member to Team FitGems was added. I've posted on him a few times before on here about his blog Promoting Real Women. I'm proud to announce that Jason Adams, founder of the Promoting Real Women blog, is now a part of the FitGems team!

Jason will be an administrator of the main FitGems Nation website, as well as an admin for the Facebook fan page as well. In addition to that, he will also be writing on the blog from time to time. Word of caution...he is VERY opinionated, much more than me. Like me, he wants to see the female athletes of this industry get better treatment and better, proper recognition.

You can view his interview I did with him earlier at http://fitgems.blogspot.com/2010/05/interview-with-jason-adams-founder-of.html, and don't forget to check out his blog at http://promotingwomen.blogspot.com. If you want to follow his personal journey to the bodybuilding stage, go to http://www.jasonsjourneytothestage.blogspot.com/.

On behalf of everyone at FitGems Nation, WELCOME ABOARD, JASON!!!!!!!!!!

Interview with Jason Adams, founder of Promoting Real Women blog

I'm honored and privileged to have the opportunity to interview one of the top female physique supporters out there today, Jason Adams. For those that don't know, Jason is the founder of the Promoting Real Women (a blog that I highly recommended when it was taking off a while back (http://fitgems.blogspot.com/2010/01/fitting-review-promoting-women.html). I'm so glad I found this site, and I'm even more happy that I can call Jason a friend. His heart is in the right place, and I know he will do well in life and with his blog. Ladies, after you read this interview, I encourage you all to get in contact with Jason and see if you can get on his blog. You won't be disappointed.


Now onto the interview:

FitGems Nation: First off, it’s an honor to interview you.
Jason Adams: Honor is all mine. You have been doing what you do much longer than I have, so for me this is an honor and almost like validation for me, that I am accepted. Still seems weird anyone would want to interview me though.

FitGems: If you could, tell us a little about yourself.
Jason: Well, obviously my name is Jason Adams. Born raised and live in Lakewood, Ohio, which is a suburb of Cleveland. I have one sister. I don't always get along with her, and at times want to scream at her, but she always had my back when we were little and I will always be thankful for that. I am that almost 34 year old who still lives with his parents, and I am ok with that. In a year, I will be in Vegas and that’s what I care about. My parents have always supported me, even when I was the trouble making school skipping punk kid, and now in my bodybuilding goals, I couldn’t do it without them. And I have a nephew who is like my own. Love him as much as anyone. Love sports, (L.A. Lakers, Denver Broncos, Pittsburgh Penguins, and above all, Toronto Blue Jays), but MMA and boxing are my passions, along with obviously bodybuilding. Was always athletic growing up, until my hip screwed that. I was born with a degenerative condition called leg perthies, which is basically a medical big word terminology for messed up hip. Pain got really bad, and the activity ended. Now I am on a mission to compete in bodybuilding. I started at 292lbs, and am around 250 now. I am not doing it for any other reason than to say "If I can do this with my medical limitations, then anyone can". There are days it hurts and getting up is hard, but I do it. I am saving and in one year will be moving to Las Vegas to let Danny J Johnson do all my training. She does my diet now, and I have a great trainer here named JT Wood. So that is a long way of saying, I am a pretty boring person.

FitGems: What got you interested in the female side of the muscle industry in the first place?
Jason: Actually, when I was in middle school when I was "sick" and home from school I would watch Corey Everson's Bodyshaping show on ESPN and was in love. My first real exposure to female bodybuilders and thought it was so cool. Became fascinated by it. That’s when I decided I wanted to train, but never had the motivation. Then you grow up and learn about it and realize there is so much more to it than the cosmetic aspect. But back then it was that show, and the Fitness America stuff on ESPN. It wasn’t until recently, within the last 6 or 7 months when I actually got to start meeting and talking to some of the women when I got entrenched in it.

FitGems: How did you come up with the idea of having a blog based on just interviews you do with the female athletes?
Jason: I always enjoyed writing. I always wanted to write a book. Just wanted something to write about somewhere. My friend Georgia Tsao started her MMA Blog MMAggregate (www.mmaggregate.com), and I thought that was a good idea, but I have way to much respect for her to try and do what she was doing, so I figured why not do something else, and interviews kind of popped into my head. I couldn't decide if I wanted to do MMA or Fitness, and figure, why not both. There are some who probably think I only do women to kiss butt, or try and impress them, but the reality is, it is because as you know in Fitness, and it is like this in MMA, the women do not get the coverage, credit, and respect men get. That is not right, and I wanted to try and help fix that. Also, it is a way to pay back. Outside of my trainer JT, all the people who have helped, guided, and taught me, are females, and this is my way to say thank you.

FitGems: Where did the title Promoting Real Women come from?
Jason: I got the first interview sent back to me and was all excited and ready to post it, and then I realized I needed a name for the thing. I sat there for probably an hour trying to come up with a name. I knew I wanted the word “Promoting” in it. I said "I need something that will make a statement and show these are real women not just eye candy, and that shows the naïve stereotypes are wrong" Then the words “Real Women” just kind of stuck in my head, and that was it.

FitGems: Promoting Real Women has partnered up with NPC Figure Competitor (and fellow FitGems member) Skye Fisher and her non-profit organization, Fit Physiques Fight Cancer, created to battling cancer. Can you explain how that partnership came about, and may you share the website for Fit Physiques Fight Cancer?
Jason: First, the website is www.fitphysiquefc.org. For those who don’t know it is basically Skye trying to get items to auction off from people in the industry or donations to battle a terrible disease. I would love to sit here and give you a great story of long hours of meetings and negotiations, but it is really simple. I have been offered a couple sponsorships, and turned down every one. I am not doing this for personal profit. Doing it my way and to help women. However I love Skye. She is an amazing woman and a friend. It just kind of hit me one day to see if Skye was interested in being my blogs sponsor, but not a real sponsor, because she doesn't pay me or anything. More or less just my way of helping an amazing woman with an amazing cause.

FitGems: Is Promoting Real Women seeking sponsorship at the moment, and if it is, may you tell the readers how they can contact you, and if not, is there a reason why that you wouldn’t mind sharing with us?
Jason: Well I kind of jumped the gun and sort of answered this in the last question. No, I am not looking for sponsors. It has been offered, and I will never reveal by whom, but I turn them down. If it was a website as opposed to a blog, then yeah, I would probably accept. But for now, it is my blog, done my way. I can post 4 interviews in a day or go two days not posting any. With a sponsor I would not be able to go two days without doing it. But really it comes down to this. I really am not doing the work. The women are. I type out some questions and they do all the work answering, so why should I profit. I would rather help the girls get sponsored. I will not use them to make my own profits. Again, if it was a website where I was doing the work, sure, I would accept the right sponsors. And the plan is at some point to be website, so I will address that I guess, when it happens. Now I am not going to be ignorant either. If the right offer came from, say a supplement company that I actually use, and it was too good to turn down, sure I would listen. You can email me at elway78@netzero.com

FitGems: It hasn’t been a full year, yet you’ve received a bigger following for your blog site than most people in a lifetime. Seriously, you have one of the biggest followings out there today. Did you ever think you would be as popular or successful as you have been?
Jason: NO WAY.LOL. Never thought it. I figured most of the people I asked would turn me down, when in fact, I think 4 people have turned me down. Including those yet to post or be sent back to me, I have done over 300 of them. If you would have told me when I started that eventually Pros like LeslieRae Newton, Zoa Linsey, Colette Nelson, Ann Titone, Debbie Bramwell, Nicole Ball etc., or top fighters like Sarah Kaufman Erin Toughill, and Roxanne Modafferi would be doing interviews I would have laughed. When I started I hoped I could get ten women to do interviews. I credit it mostly to three women. IFBB Pro's Victoria Larvie and Tonia Moore, and future Pro Allison Moyer. First they are three of the people I most admire in this industry, but I believe them doing interviews early on gave me some credibility. When you ask someone to do an interview and can tell them "Look two pros did these interviews" it makes you look more legit. Plus Allison is so popular and it got me a lot of readers when I posted hers and again she gave me credibility with people. So I will say it now, if not for Allison Moyer, Tonia Moore, and Victoria Larvie, I really do not know if I have this blog right now.

FitGems: Will we see Promoting Real Women as a full-blown site or message board someday?
Jason: Maybe. I mentioned earlier, it is the plan, but to say the plan as fact, is to overstate it. Part of me wants to, and part of me doesn't. Part of me does because it can help me increase the exposure of the women, and maybe move to my goal of sponsoring some girls. Part of me doesn't because I suck at computers LOL, and it is so much more work, and between two workouts a day, looking for a job (and hopefully working again soon), I don't know if I have the time. But if you are putting money on it, yeah, most likely, when the time is right.

FitGems: If you could, please provide the addresses to your sites for the Promoting Real Women brand so others can view and support you and your cause to help provide respect to the industry and its competitors?
Jason: OK, the blog is www.promotingwomen.blogspot.com. Also I have a fan page on Facebook, which is also run by three competitors but mainly IFBB Fitness Pro LeslieRae Newton. That address is http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Promoting-Women-In-Bodybuilding-Fitness-and-MMA/112681648755406?ref=ts On that page I also post links to the interviews as well as have a cover model contest each month where fans can vote on who gets to be the main profile picture and a photo album of the winner, plus links for other things like contest certain girls may be in or tips and advice kinds of stuff. Also LeslieRae answers questions people have needing tips or advice.

FitGems: What do you feel about sites such as Siouxcountry (www.siouxcountry.com), Hardbody News (www.hardbody.com/news ), Bodysport (www.bodysport.com), and FitGems Nation (http://www.fitgemsnation.net) being great sites for women to get information on the industry and be actively involved without having to deal with the sexual, rude, and obscene behavior from other sites out there, who clearly have a small outlook on the women in this industry?
Jason: If it wasn’t for those sites, then there wouldn’t be my blog. You guys showed women in the fitness industry can be treated with respect, and if it wasn't for that, no one would trust me with what I do. Each site is different, but the goals are the same. These women are athletes not sex objects. I mean let's be honest, I am a guy, so let's use Allison Moyer as the example (hope you don't mind Allison). When I first found her, I thought she was the most beautiful thing on two legs. I still think she is beautiful. But I don't look at her like that anymore. I look at her as Allison Moyer the Figure competitor (should be Pro Figure competitor), Allison Moyer the athlete, and Allison Moyer the woman. Every guy looks at a woman and can find her beautiful, but that does not mean she is eye candy. They have careers and things and should be respected for their achievements in their chosen career. In this case, fitness. It is ok to look at a certain girl and find her attractive, but that does not mean you have the right to think of her or treat her like a sex object. Respect the hard work and dedication they have. These women are actually for the most par very appreciative of the support. Part of what makes them beautiful is how hard they work to get their physique. Too many people think these women train to make them more appealing and things and that isn't true. The sites you mentioned showed the women in this industry can be covered and done professionally and respectfully. It is just too bad for every great site like FitGems or Siouxcountry, there are ten sites or blogs that choose to go the other way and treat them like sex objects.

FitGems: How do you feel about the treatment of the ladies today, as opposed to about a decade ago?
Jason: That’s tough because I think there are pros and cons both ways. I think there are more people treating them with respect and as athletes now then there was then, but I also think there are more people treating them as sex objects because with the internet and things they are more visible and more known. The years ago I think the general feeling by society is that female bodybuilders were manly, very naive thinking, but the thought none the less, and that they shouldn’t be looking that muscular. Now I think there are more people respecting them as athletes, but more people also thinking of them as sex objects. But all in all, I think things have improved, and will continue to. I think what needs to change is that the people writing the magazines and sponsoring the athletes needs to change. You want your magazine to sell? Stop putting Jay Cutler on two thirds of the pages, and put Iris Kyle on some, put Heather Armbrust on some, Put Heather Mae French on some. They don't realize with the fans, I think there is more interest in the women. Same with sponsors. Just look at the Olympia. How many sponsors does Jay Cutler have and how many does Iris have. No disrespect to Jay Cutler, he is awesome, but really how many consecutive pages do I need to see him on when I read a magazine. I may get some heat for saying that, but it is just the facts. After the Olympia every magazine basically said "Jay Cutler wins Mr. Olympia....... and by the way Iris Kyle won,too".

FitGems: Would you ever think in your wildest dreams that bikini would be considered a part of the IFBB/NPC organization?
Jason: Never!!! Usually you say Bikini competition and you think of being on the beach with twenty girls on a stage jumping up and down to see who can bounce the most. Finally REAL Bikini competitors are getting their chance to show how hard they work and I think it's great.

FitGems: I personally have NO problem with bikini as part of NPC/IFBB, but unfortunately there are those that feel that it has no place in the federation. Do you agree with them, or are they just not giving the division a chance to shine?
Jason: Bikini competitors work just as hard as any other competitor. Vanessa Prebyl writes a weekly column for my blog and is a sure think future Bikini Pro, and I know how hard she works and I have such respect for her. Jenny Phantharath has become a friend and I know how hard she works. I will not name names but a Pro bodybuilder told me she thinks it is disgusting that Bikini girls get to share her stage. That is terrible thinking. How hard did she fight to get her respect? This is a top competitor. She worked hard to get there and had to fight naive stereotypes. Now you want to do the same thing? Use your false beliefs on how hard these women work and say they don't belong on stage with you? Some people say it takes away from their attention, but I disagree. I think it brings fans who otherwise wouldn’t not attend a bodybuilding or fitness show, to those shows, and helps open people’s eyes to the other competitors, be it Fitness, Figure or Bodybuilding. They may not bench 300lbs but they work just as hard. For fans who don't like it, the answer is simple......don't watch.

FitGems: How would you improve NPC/IFBB fitness, figure, and women’s bodybuilding?
Jason: That is a loaded question for me because I am a “speak my mind” person and likely to offend someone, but here goes. First, too often it is a popularity contest. It isn't always who looks best, but who knows who. That is not always the case, but it is sometimes. I have heard stories that disgust me. I do not believe anyone should ever be allowed to judge unless they have competed or are trainers, and I mean legit trainers. A competitor knows how a competitor should look. This is drastic, but lie detect the judges. I say for example. have ten judges for a show, after the scoring test each judge to make sure his scoring is what he really feels, if he fails, throw his card out, and use one from an alternate judge.

FitGems: Besides the IFBB and NPC, what other physique organizations do you follow?
Jason: Name one LOL. I have become friends with so many who compete in all different organizations, so pretty much you name one and I will follow it.

FitGems: If you could change anything about the NPC and/or IFBB itself (not the actually divisions), what would it be and why?
Jason: I think this goes back to the previous question. The judging at times sucks. And I do not mean that as the winner should not be the winner. I mean that in all parts of the results. Not just first place each time. And please start treating the women as equal. Also, do something, and I don't know the answer, to get Fitness back on track. Too many girls are moving to Figure and it is going to make Fitness obsolete.

FitGems: I’m aware that you have respect for all female competitors, but which females have inspired you to be the best you can be?
Jason: Now I know why everyone hates when I ask this question. Fear of leaving someone out. There are sooooo many. I will name the ones who are a personal help or influence to me, and please if I forget you, don't be upset.
Megan Melone- Megan has been so supportive of me and encouraging and makes me believe I can do anything.
Tisha Rodrigues- Tisha actually is an MMA fighter now, but used to compete. She also has been so supportive and always pops me up when I am down. She is that beautiful, sweet woman, who can also kick your ass.
Teri Chadwick Edwards- Not a competitor, but trains just as hard as any competitor and has believed in and supported me so much.
Shirley Madera- Shirley makes it so each day I was up and there is a text with a motivational quote for me to get me up and ready to train. She is a special woman.
Tiffany Forni- Her success story speaks for itself. Lost like 100lbs and is now the owner of one of the best bodies you will ever see. So inspiring, and willing to help me out.
Lisa Zisa- Honestly did not know her before the Arnold's and meet her because she is one of Jack and Ann Titone's Jacked Up Divas. Glad I did because she has become someone I truly admire and respect. There should be more people like her in the world.
Tonia Moore- She was already a favorite, but now with her battle with Cohn’s Disease and the way she is tackling it head on, she is amazing.
Vanessa Prebyl- For all her great writing for my blog and being a special person.
Jenny Phantharath- For being a friend when I really needed one. Jenny you rock.
Victoria Larvie- The first Pro to do an interview with me. But on top of that she is the first person I asked for advice n training and she helped more than once. IF she hadn't I may never have asked anyone else. Victoria I owe you big time.
Jamie Eason- I was ready to quit training one day because too many people were trying to advise me. Jamie out of nowhere commented on a Facebook post encouraging me. Several months later at the Arnolds she remembered me. And she has since encouraged me. Jamie you rock.
Skye Fisher- Already mentioned the respect I have for Skye. So excited to get to train with her one day. Skye has helped metro. Such an amazing woman.
LeslieRae Newton- Been such a help with the fan page and giving me some advice. She is battling her leg injury and it helps me know I can battle my leg problems. LeslieRae I hope to always have you as a friend.
Laura Kline_ Getting ready for her first show. She is what I call an advanced me. She transformed her body and is such an inspiration to me. She is a beautiful woman with a big future in the industry. She made me believe I could achieve.
Jill Crean- Two time cancer survivor says enough. But Jill is the nicest person I know. Always encourages me. I admit, I saw photos from her last show and was in tears. I was so happy for and proud of her.
Eryn Strickland -For your inspiration, encouragement you have given me
Allison Moyer- For sure the coolest person you will ever meet. Our first time talking wasn’t even about fitness. It was her trying to cheer me up from my depression. Allison you are a special woman.
Sarah Kinney- Sarah you are my studdette (inside joke). Always has my back. Took time out to offer so much help to me. Would not be where I am without you Sarah.
Ann Titone- How cool that an IFBB Pro offers her help for free with making your diet. Ann is everything that is right about this industry. She believes in me and her support means everything.
Belinda Hope- Belinda you rock. Your support, help, encouragement, all mean so much. You know I think so much of you.
Danny J Johnson- If you know me, you know what Danny means to me.....EVERYTHING. She is my trainer from another state. She is my nutritionist and helps with training, and in one year I am moving by her and letting her handle everything. She is amazing and my goal is to make her proud. I want to be her greatest success story. When I compete I don't care if I win or finish last, as long as I can look out and see her face and see her proud of me. Danny you are my HERO.
OK, sorry that was so long.

FitGems: You have mentioned that you plan to be on stage one day. Can you share with the readers what made you decide to join the bodybuilding rankings?
Jason: Always wanted to be the big muscular guy, but a combination of my hip, lack of motivation, and flat out being scared to be the new guy in the gym held me back. I don't have that fear anymore, I am full of motivation, and I won't let my hip beat me. It was just something I wanted to do, then it turned into saying if I can do it, anyone can do it. Now I have some haters. Gotten some mean emails trying to stop me, so now it is also to say F.U. to them. I am down over 40lbs since I started training and won't stop. I think I can do it. I have the most amazing support system and with JT training me here and Danny J doing my diet and helping with the training, I feel I will. I said when I started five years. Everyone said three, JT said two and Danny said one if I work for it. I am shooting for two. I am still learning and have a way to go, but I am enjoying the journey. I actually have a blog about my training, www.jasonsjourneytothestage.blogspot.com

FitGems: In addition to interviewing female physique competitors, you interview female mixed martial artists (MMA). How did you become a fan of female MMA in the first place?
Jason: I watched the second UFC on pay per view, and loved the sport ever since. It is my favorite sport. I think there is nothing more pure in sports than two men or women getting in a cage or ring for 15 minutes one on one. The respect in that sport is great. Most times after a fight they hug and show respect. You never know if it will be a stand up fight or more grappling, and it is great to see two contrasting styles clash. As far as women, same as in fitness, they train just as hard, fight just as hard, and don’t get the respect. Watch an MMA show with a women’s fight, usually it turns out to be the most exciting fight of the night.

FitGems: Who is your favorite MMA fighter: male AND female?
Jason: OK can’t do just one, so can I do a top 5?
Men: Chuck Liddell (favorite athlete period), Matt Hughes, Rich Franklin, Brock Lesnar, and Joseph Benevidez
Women: Tisha Rodrigues, Sarah Goodlaxson, Lacey Schuckman, Roxanne Modafferi, and Michelle Ould.

FitGems: About five to ten years from now, where do see the following:
a. Women’s bodybuilding
b. Fitness
c. Figure
d. Bikini
e. Women’s MMA
f. Promoting Real Women
g. You personally!
Jason: A: I see it being a lot more popular. I truly believe female bodybuilders are getting more popular and I don’t see that stopping. In ten years I see really big things for female bodybuilding.
B: God I hope I am wrong, but I wonder if it will be around. The field seems to be getting smaller and smaller at a lot of shows. Hopefully with the right people trying to help it, it will make a big comeback.
C: Huge. I think Figure is that thing where people who like some muscle but not too much muscle go to, and where the people who like Bikini type girls but with a little more muscle go to.
D: I see Bikini being as respected as any other competitor and becoming a major part of the industry.
E: I think it will be right where it is now honestly. Popular but not popular enough for a major mainstream US women’s only company. There are some smaller ones here and in Japan but not major ones. There are a lot of really talented young fighters like the ones I mentioned earlier and many others and I think that helps.
F: Hmmm. Depends. If I make it a site, hopefully huge.LOL If it is still just a blog, right where it is, hopefully just more popular. As long as I can promote the women, I will be happy.
G: Living in Vegas that’s for sure. At that point hopefully, I will have competed many times, and actually be a trainer myself. I want to be someone people can say "He did that. People said he couldn’t do it, and he did, that inspires me".

FitGems: Anything else you want to take this opportunity to plug or promote, whether for you or anything else you’re passionate about?
Jason: Yes, please check out my trainer Danny J Johnson's website www.dannyjfitness.com, LeslieRae Newton's at www.leslierae.com, and Ann Titone's at www.anntitone.com. If you want to be trained and on stage learn from Ann and Jack and the Jacked Up Divas, and of course, another great trainer and competitor Allison Moyers site www.allifitness.com. Also my store. I sell shirts, pillows, all sorts of things. Some featuring competitors who let me put them on the items. The goal is not for me to profit, but make enough to sponsor some competitors. All proceeds go to that. www.cafepress.com/fitwomen.

FitGems: Once again, Jason, thank you so much for being interview for FitGems Nation. Any last words for your fans, followers, and those learning about you for the first time? Also let the readers know how you can contact them to do an interview for Promoting Real Women.
Jason: It was my honor. Like I said, you are one of the leaders and I just follow. Cant believe anyone wants to interview me, but this was really fun. Any female competitor who wants to do an interview just shoot me an email at elway78@netzero.com. Thank you to every single person who has done an interview and every single person that reads it. There are so many amazing women and it is my honor to present them in a positive light. And please take it from me, someone who has a few haters for some reason, DO NOT LET ANYONE TELL YOU "YOU CAN"T DO SOMETHING". Someone told me once, and I believe it to be true, "When you have that moment, that moment where you achieve the goal people said you couldn’t achieve, do the thing people said you couldn't do, when you prove everyone wrong, you earn that moment, you take that moment, that isn’t being a success, that is being heroic". Everyone deserves that moment, if you want yours, take it.

Once again, thank you so much, Jason, for taking the time to be interviewed by FitGems Nation. Please check out ALL the links posted throughout this interview, especially the Promoting Real Women links. And ladies, once again, I would highly recommend you getting an interview with him if you haven't done so already. He does this out of the goodness of his heart and asked for no money doing this. To get interviewed, contact him at elway78@netzero.com.